Thank you both. Boo-hoo, I've given up on the idea. And I am really depressed about it.
I have to be the grown-up you know, and with 2 small kids it isn't fair to just be gone a month in the school year. Why it really bums me is because I think I had a very good chance of getting in. The residence was sent to me by someone in the company, because of the fit. For example, they have this questionnaire you have to fill out - what type of work you do, how it would fit in, what you will learn from the residence.... and every single question I can fill out totally comfortably, no grabbing at straws, in a way that works perfect to the benefit of this company. NOT because I am trying to benefit the company, or even trying to write it in a way to get in, but because my art really does fit in there. I can't explain it. It just works, naturally. And it's like someone is handing something wonderful to me, and yet I can't take it.