Hi Life ofArt, and welcome to this forum!!! Everyone here is very helpful. I'm sorry you are having such a hard time with your new pastels.
I think before anyone can answer your questions, we need to know what kind of pastels you bought (brand) and what kind of paper you are using. Do you use a soft touch? or do you press down hard? What kind of "painting" are you trying to do? Or are you more interested in drawing per se?
Give us some more info, so we can give you some guidance.
p.s. looking back at your posts it looks like you are pretty new to the world of the artist, and maybe you are expecting too much of yourself too soon. Keep experimenting, take classes, and practice, practice, practice. Nobody can do it any other way, and if they say they did, they are probably fibbing
And don't give up!! My first art teacher said you have to do at least 100 paintings before you begin to understand how to paint (or use pastels, in this case). It takes time and practice. You learn with every stroke. So don't get discouraged.