Dealing with Daily Crap

[Jhin]

Hi all,

I posted this in the Affirmation thread, but I also have a problem I need input for...how you deal with the daily problems after doing morning pages or meditation or whatever to get in touch with your inner creativity. Seems all the roadblocks just pile up again.

I just got my copy of the book and upon reading an affirmation came to me - I did not identify it as such at the time, but that is what it is:
I open the door to GOD
I open the door to my creativity within
My interp of "God" is the creative spark within all living things.
I immediately felt a change - does that sound weird?

I did my first morning pages this morning and was surprised that I filled 3 pages. I did not think I could write 3 pages so easily

Felt good and cleansed - then read my email and all the crap of the day came upon me with problems to handle. I am beside myself and all the benefits of this morning are gone.

How do the rest of you deal with this sort of stuff?

[Gisele]

Kahuna, doing the TAW program will help you greatly I'm sure! So you're on the right track.
You say you get crap from emails....if you clarify the situation surely you can find a solution for this.
Personally, I rarely have to deal with crap.
Most people that love to send you crap are usually toxic people (does that ring a bell;) and TAW chapter 1 describes it pretty clearly....
I've been getting rid of toxic relationships for quite a while so I don't get in crappy situations much.


Gisele:)

[Jhin]

Hi Gisele,

I meant the daily problems that cause stress and worry and distract us from the Creator.
It was an unexpected problem caused by others that I have to straighten out now (typical crisis mgmt) - and that make me crazy! These feelings then get in the way of flow and there is no way I can think of painting when these things loom in my head. LOL
I can't wait until I can get back to my book (before bed) and get up for my morning pages :) It made me feel so good!
I was just wondering what others do - how do you handle stress that intrudes upon you? Just deal with it until you get quiet time later?

[paintfool]

The first thing i do is to take a realistic look at the situation and determine if it's indeed a crisis sitation that absolutley demands my immediate attention or do i merely think so at the moment. Some things just aren't that important. If you're worried about what ohters will think of you if you do not respond to thier 'crisis' don't. People love to suck others into thier problems because they enjoy the drama of it all. These are the toxice people discussed in chapter two and they feed off of energy. Your energy. If you're concerned about losing thier friendship by not responding to them consider that that relationship may not be as sound as you'd thought. It's certainly not benefitting you.
If the situation is one that you feel you'd like to resolve put it on a piece of paper. Fold it up, set it aside. Save it for when you're feeling positive.

[Jhin]

Mine are stress problems caused by just "stuff" - I have lost my itinerary for my upcoming trip and need that to get my tickets at the airport - gotta deal with that TODAY!
I tried buying a port replicator for my laptop so I can use a "real" keyboard - I still have to work at a paying job every day - that order got all messed up and I am still trying to get one to be shipped to Abq so I'll have it there. Murphy's Law took over here LOL
It's just that stuff, over and over and over. Getting my daily work done, probs with the computer, lost files, dealing with complaints, etc.
At least I took some time out yesterday to clear out a space for my studio-to-be! Yeah! I am carving out a corner for myself in a guest room. Am buying a taboret and will do with the junky easel I now have. I have a table that was used for a computer printer in the old days of dot matrix and will convert that into my watercolor area. I'll finally be able to gather up all my paints out of the kitchen (where I have been painting) and store them in one place!
And when stuff gets to me, I take time out to just hug my dog - it's great therapy :)

[zeegallerie]

Your letting the day control you, I used to until I had a stroke at 58 then 5 stents in my heart, I am unable to go more than 5 hours a day until I wear out. You know what? All of a sudden all that I thought that was so important ISN'T. Every day I forget things like oh I'm cooking something I've burned up more dinners, forget where I put things, Don't move around as fast, the pressing world issues (I'm still working on that one) If something is troubling you stop and think is it that important that I have to solve it RIGHT now, slow down sort thing and put them in a list of really important things. My list are
1. I have to do now
2. Sometime today
3. is it really that important
4. I put it on a list of things I need to do sometime.
Laugh at your self enjoy jokes
When you fall down take a moment and see if there is anything else you need to do while your down there. Take a breath enjoy the whole day. Oh by the way if you know where I put that $20 and a small bottle of nitro pills would you let me know This is one of those things I forgot where I put them a month ago

[Artbug]

Ingrid,

Sometimes when things get overwhelming, and there are so many things I "have" to do, or problems I need to take care of that seem SO important, I stop and think "Five years from now when I look back on the problem that seems so big right now, will it really have been that big in the grand scheme of things". Helps me to get things into perspective.

I used to let everone else's needs and toxic behaviors affect every area of my life. Then I turned forty and decided the second half of my life was going to be more about me and not everyone else. Ah, the freedom.

Keep going with the Morning Pages! They help.

[paintfool]

Originally posted by zeegallerie
Laugh at your self enjoy jokes
When you fall down take a moment and see if there is anything else you need to do while your down there.
LOL! That's about the greatest thing i've heard today! I'm going to keep that one in mind!:)
So much good advice from all of you guys! I think we all pretty much agree that even though the going sometimes gets tough we tend to exaggerate the importance of a lot of little things.

[Gisele]

Kahuna, I just wanted to add: if ever you feel in the mood for major reorganising your life and your space buy this excellent book:Organising from the inside out by Julie Morgenstern . I tell you it will change your life! I had found a copy at my local library and had to give it back, so I will be buying it today if the book store is open. So far I've done my painting area, part of the computer area and will do the whole house. There is also a chapter on how to organise your TIME.:D


Hope this helps

Gisele:)

[Jhin]

Thanks for the ref!
I am pretty good at organizing - have learned throughout the years. Motherhood also helps there. Mothers have to learn or they will pull their hair out - or their kids' LOL
Now that my son is 22 and at K-State, I concentrate on me. It was my last birthday that I just "decided" to paint - and I am doing that, with gusto :D
I don't sweat the small stuff - like cooking, laundry, etc - they get done when they need to. I concentrate on my daily work as that is my job and then work in flexibility to paint or just sit outside when I need to. The breaks are important and I treat them as such :)
Bought a port replicator for my laptop to make my work easier on my trips to Abq. I am working ahead a bit to allow myself more time to travel around there to the Balloon Festival and meet another artist I met through WC! I do what I can to smooth out the chores that MUST be done, so I will have time for things I WANT to do :)
My biggest enemy, and perhaps all of ours, is ourselves. Inner voices, negativity, fear, they all stem from us and no outside force can MAKE us believe negativity if we do not allow it. That is my focus and why I put myself on the TAW path - and it's nothing new. Those are issues I have dealt with all life long - as I suspect is true for the rest of us - and that I will face again and I will NOT allow to divert me from my chosen path :)
How's that for an affirmation?? LOL

[zeegallerie]

good morning everyone fall has finall arrived here the last couple of days it is absoluly wonderful. Have a peaceful day.:D

[Artbug]

Good Morning to you!

Fall has arrived here as well and the snow is starting to creep down the mountain. It is beautiful. Time to take some reference pictures for painting.

Have a great day!

[zeegallerie]

where are you to see snow we are about a month away from it

[ArtistEnigma]

One of the things that art and God has helped me to do is try and find beauty in everything. It's hard at times but after some practice it will come naturally.

[writes4me]

No, seriously, I just vaccuum out all the bad stuff in my brain. I turn on the television and vaccuum. I am very much a student of a clean house makes for a clean brain. You'd never tell it by the shape my house is normally in but I do try to keep things (even small corners of things I can deal with, in an orderly way) and that makes me feel like I've accomplished something.

Okay, the laundry isn't all done. The dogs need bathing. The cat boxes need emptying. We have no food in the house but a can of pork and beans and out of date milk. The onions we intended to use in that spaghetti sauce has sprouted and the potatoes, which are supposed to last forever in a cool, dark, environment are now a field of green. I don't have any deodrant but I do have baby powder. My husband and I will have to share a razor tomorrow, but he has never minded a dull razor cause I know I'm shaving my legs before he'll get a chance to shave his face. ;)

How to deal with daily crap? Go to bed because a new day is coming and you can start afresh with a whole new heap of hot off the press, stinking, poop. Buy a Bissell. :clap: